I’ve been reading a lot of blogs lately; it’s been enlightening to see the diversity of parenting, and schooling, and so on….
While, I don’t necessarily agree with every belief or technique out there, I am very open minded, and if nothing else, it has expanded my own parenting “technique”. It has also caused me to be MUCH more aware of parents around me. A recent scenario really struck me as interesting;
We were at the local county fair a week or so ago, the temperature was likely near a humid 90 degrees. There was a mom nearby with her 2 little ones in a wagon, and she had just treated them with some delicious cotton candy….(yumm!) I mean, who doesn’t LOVE some cotton candy at the fair, right? Then I hear mom yell; “No, don’t get all sticky”
What?….don’t get sticky??? Is that possible for an adult, let alone a child? I mean, why not put me IN the water, yet tell me not to get wet…right?
While it was easy to spot out another mothers faults, it made me think;
First of all cotton candy is A LOT like parenting; STICKY (yet, oh so sweet and rewarding) but more importantly;
How many times have I given my boys an unrealistic expectation to a situation that I likely placed them in?
Have I placed them outside while waiting to go somewhere and expected them not to get dirty?
Have I provided too much junk food in the house and expected them not to eat it?
Have I given them allowance without teaching budget and expect them not to spend it all at the corner store?
Have I given them unrestricted internet, and expected them not to search it?
Have I not led by example, and yet expect them to be leaders?
Yet, some of these ideas may seem silly; they very much include unrealistic expectations. Especially now that my boys are getting older, I sometimes forget that I am STILL responsible for teaching and guiding them through life. Isn’t it always easier to stand back and judge critique someone else’s parenting style, or methods?
What kind of unrealistic expectations have you placed on your children recently?
What can you do to be more aware of those expectations?
Please consider joining me this fall in this wonderful 21 day prayer challenge for boys! It may not give us all the answers, but it will give us specific prayers to pray over the boys in our lives…(and you’ll even learn a thing or 2..;)