Empty Nest……sort of!

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I’m just going to throw it out there.

I’m really not feeling it this holiday season. This year has been a tough transition with 3 out of 5 of our boys growing up and moving on (and I swear to you, it happened overnight)

Brandon is still home, but he’s never home. (I guess at 19 you have other things to do 🙂 Philip isn’t home, and rarely makes it down between work and school, and Boyd’s work/school schedule  only allows him to come to hang out occasionally. (when I beg him)

We have so quickly transitioned from a house of five boys to a house of two that I’ve been sort of left in the dust here.  Everyone isn’t here for birthday dinners, everyone wasn’t here for putting up the tree (truth is, the tree is up, and the ornaments STILL aren’t on it) The weekend after my birthday we actually managed to have ALL five boys under this roof at once…but we had a very short window of time (maybe 30 minutes) and so….I begged, and guilted, and pleaded for a picture (of ALL of us, for Christmas) and here’s what we got:

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(Yes…the “older” boys could not contain themselves, while the younger one was over it before it even began.) and honestly I miss that quirkiness in them.

These boys: they cause me grief and heartache and misery and guilt….but they also bring me joy, and completeness and a love that is unconditional. and I miss them, I miss them so much!

It’s like…I don’t know how to place one foot in front of the other when planning things without them. How do I carry on when they aren’t here??? This is tough, I am attached to my kids, and I miss them dang it!

I really don’t remember anyone warning me that this was all going to be so hard. Other parents always talked about how they couldn’t wait til their kids were 18! Well, I would go back in a heartbeat to having five wildly crazy unruley boys running around here, breaking my pretties, and eating me out of house and home.

So….who out there has had children grow up and move on? How do you deal? emotionally? socially? family?

Please tell me it’s going to get better?

 

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About multipurpose-mom

Stacey is a: Saved by Grace, God fearing, Bible believing, Child of the King! In her chaotic world of full time employment, being a wife, raising 5 boys, laundry, dishes, carpool, PTSA, and on and on: She is STILL trying to fulfill God's call in her life.....to share her story, her battles, her triumphs, and testimonies of being a teen mom from a drug addicted home, to being the not so perfect wife and mother she is today! Her prayer is to lift up and encourage others through the words that God lays before her! In her chaos she has learned, she is not just a wife and mother.....she is a taxi driver, a nurse, a referee, a counselor, a maid, a cook and so much more...she has MANY purposes! Welcome to Multipurposemom.com, Here we hope you find strength, humor, tears, and tangibility for your journey....whatever it is! Please feel free to comment (we LOVE comments) and if you are blessed, please won't you share the blessing with others! Thanks for Visiting! In Christ!

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  1. It does get easier, kinda…We went from a Christmas with five boys last year to a Christmas with three this year. One got married and the other one is at Bible school. We sent a picture of either their Dad or myself hanging their ornaments to the four that aren’t here at home and that helped a whole lot. Made us feel a bit closer to them. 🙂 You have to make new, but different, memories. Hugs!!

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